“Fake it till you make it”. Isn’t that a lot of motivational speakers say?

Affirm everyday and you will be sorted. You will achieve what you are seeking .

In my opinion and personal experience, Affirmations don’t work until and unless we know exactly where the issue is stemming from.

When we face certain issues in our physical body. We don’t sit and affirm ‘I’m healthy’. We visit the doctor to figure out what is happening in our physical body? We follow the expert’s instructions to bring it back to it’s healthy state. Would you there apply, Fake it till you make it?

If we don’t neglect our physical body just by affirming to it. Then why would we do this to our emotional and mental state?

When we are faced with an issue, stuck in a pattern or emotionally disturbed, we try to push it under the carpet by saying all will be fine soon. All is well.

Is it really well? If that is the case it it shouldn’t bother us for a long period of time.

Yes, I also understand a lot of situations however unnerving they may be, do not have a deeper cause. If disturbing situations are one off,  then it is absolutely okay to pull oneself up and say ‘All is well’ and look at the brighter side.

However; if similar situations, similar emotions, similar patterns are appearing in life and we aren’t attending to them. If we are always pulling ourselves up and bringing the STRONGER, WARRIOR side of us by saying “All is well, Everything is alright”. Then trust me, these issues get bigger and bigger.

Our strong emotions such as anger, pain, rejection, anxiety etc. are like little children asking for attention and acknowledgement. Until and unless we attend to them, they keep throwing tantrums making a mess within and around us.

Is it possible to quieten this child once it is in it’s worse state of being?

Yes! By attending to it. isn’t it?

However, just by giving temporary attention this brat may quieten him for the time being but it will act out soon enough. His behavior is not going to change by attending to the present scenario. Further investigation will be required to determine what is making this child so “DRAMATIC”.

Why is he upset?

What is ticking him off?

Is he hungry, thirsty, hurt, feeling neglected ?

And

What can be done to make him/her feel more secured and happy?

Our emotional and mental state is also like this little child. Hiding behind these words “All is well”, “I’m happy”, “I am loved”, “I’m enough” is not going to bring it back to a happy joyous state.

I’m not denying the role of affirmations. Surely, it can be used as one of the tools to further enhance the journey of self recovery.

However, disturbing emotions and patterns require proper attention and tender love. They do need further inquiry so that the issue can be eradicated from the core . Just as when we are facing health issues, we do the tests to rule out certain diseases.

In the long run just by telling oneself happy things and thinking happy thoughts doesn’t work. It only keeps one in the illusion of being happy vis-a-vis being happy in its true form.

From my heart to yours 💕