“The Circle of Expectations”

Exercise: “The Circle of Expectations”

Take a moment to pause and reflect on your expectations and needs with this simple exercise:

• Reflect on a situation:
  Sit in a quiet space and think about a recent situation where you felt hurt, disappointed, or let down by someone. Write it down in detail, focusing on your emotions and thoughts.Separate your expectations:Divide your expectations into two categories: 

   

  Healthy Expectations: These are mutual and fair, benefiting both parties.

  Unrealistic Expectations: These stem from assumptions or hopes without clear communication.

  Ask yourself:
  What does this situation teach me about my needs and boundaries?
  Were my expectations clearly communicated?
  Was the other person capable of meeting these expectations, given their nature or circumstances?

  Define your requirements:
  Make a list of your core needs in relationships, work, or any context. Are these needs being met? If not, how can you fulfil them without resentment or harm to others?

  Draw your circle:
  Draw a circle on a blank page. Inside the circle, write what you can do to fulfil your requirements and nurture yourself. Outside the circle, write what you wish to release—unrealistic expectations, unresolved hurt, or dependence on others to meet your needs.

  Affirm your clarity:
  Write a personal affirmation to ground yourself. For example:
  “I honour my needs and fulfil them with love and compassion, without compromising my truth or others’ well-being.”

  Revisit this exercise whenever you feel weighed down by expectations or imbalances in your relationships.

Remember, life is a dance of giving and receiving, balanced by clear communication and self-awareness. When you honour your own needs and release unrealistic expectations, you create space for authentic connections and peace within yourself.

If this exercise resonated with you, share your reflections in the comments below or tag me in your own “Circle of Expectations” post on social media. Let’s inspire each other to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships—starting with ourselves